Tuesday, December 10, 2013
Remember: It starts off like this.
Remember: To add some of this.
Remember To do the things that got you to fall for each other in the first place.
Remember: To love without conditions
Remember: To communicate concerns immediately, don't let things slide hoping they correct themselves.
Remember: That you presented yourself, They accepted your presentation, Love grew, the good and the bad were conquered, and together you stand as God and your love for each other kept you wanting to love more than the day you said "I Do".
Sunday, December 8, 2013
A big mistake most couples make is that they forget about God.
You got married before God creating a covenant between the 2 of you and God, And now You forgot about God when you went through some trying times, and now your relationship is failing.
You forgot to give God the praise when things are going well, And you get upset with God when things fail.
Keep God in the middle of everything that you do. Have faith that God will do what he says he will do. Trust and Believe.
This one goes for men and women:
Ladies First, STOP! getting advice from friends that aren't truly trying to help you. Stop getting advice from women who are in failing relationships, unless they're trying to steer you away from some of the things they are going through. Women some of your male friends may have a hidden agenda when trying to give you advice about your mate in order to gain the inside track to your heart or goodies. If he's looking out for you He'll treat you like his sister or daughter and have your best interests at heart.
Gentlemen, Stop telling your boys that its OK to have a side chick because "we're men". That is played. You are a grown man. If you still wanna play, Play by all means. Don't take a woman's fragile heart and play with it. It's not a good feeling for them. (I've been there and to hear a woman express the hurt is hurtful) And Karma is alive and kicking. So however you wanna call or whatever you call it, Karma, Reaping what you've sown, or what goes around comes around. They are alive and kicking. It may not get you personally, but someone near to you will catch hell from something bad that you've done. So with that being said, It's so easy to apologize. Do it. Forget your proud moments and say you're sorry with sincerity. It can go along way. And an explanation even further.
Don't say Hurtful things to the one you love. Yes you can apologize, but the words were said and its hard to take back something that came from your mouth in the heat of an argument or discussion. Hurtful words, like Beautiful words leave lasting impressions. Words that come out of your mouth are usually words from the heart especially when you're in stressful situation, good stress or bad. I love you is just as affective and penetrating as I hate you. Disrespectful words are not allowed. Name calling is a no-go! Threats of harm or threats of leaving because you can't agree to disagree is a cop out. Its a sign of weakness. Its also controlling behavior. RUN from that. YOU DO NOT DISRESPECT THE ONE YOU SAY YOU LOVE!
Married Women... Don't become a prude with your husband just because you found God. The freak you were before Should only come alive more after you're married. Too many times I hear women putting on the chastity belt and rationing out Heaven. And then wonder why he stepped out. Now that doesn't give him a reason to do that. But don't act surprised when it happens. You're his wife and sexual relations should be at an ultimate high. Remember Sex was created to help populate the earth. It was for husbands and wives. It was a way for husband and wife to share each other in the most heart felt way. It is still the same today. Don't twist it with the world's view. Men don't you do that either. It looks a lot different when you're holding out. Remember we as men already have this stigma about us that we're dogs and that we would screw the first thing that threw themselves at us. So holding out only means we're getting it from somewhere else.
Can't do that.
You should have married the person that satisfied those needs as well as the other needs that are important for you.
Your level of passion, love, desire and need for you mate plays a big part in how successful your relationship will be.
"Love the one you can't live without" I love that quote.
Just a few observations.
I love, love.
Saturday, December 7, 2013
To allow you further into my world... I am a man that loves Love. I am a man that believes everything happens for a reason. I believe that people come into our lives for different reasons, and whatever that reason is, there's a lesson to be learned.
I believe there are situations in relationships that require one to walk away when redundancy is the norm.
I believe no one should put up with their mates BS if in fact its causing harm to the relationship and inadvertently causing the family unit to suffer.
I believe that 100% is the effort level put forth in relationships. 50-50 isn't cutting it.
I believe that intimacy is very important. And for men and women intimacy IS NOT SEX!!! Look up the word and stop the misuse of the word.
I believe romance enhances the relationship. Again ladies and Gents, romance IS NOT SEX!!!!
I believe an attentive person understands their mate on level that captivates the other.
I believe affection is more important than intimacy. The touch can say so much, how you touch can make a world of difference in the non verbal communication area of things.
I believe in doing things "Just Because" she is the woman I chose, and she accepted my invitation. I won't let her down.
She is a woman I can't live without. Her smile is always warm. Her touch calms all my fears. She is my rock. She is Queen. I don't bow down to her. I lift her up to the heavens to let her know that God sent an angel my way. I am grateful for her. She Loves me unconditionally, I love her unconditionally. We are not perfect. We are like puzzle pieces to a puzzle made in imperfect shapes, yet the pieces come together to form something beautiful. Scattered pieces of a puzzle display chaos. We put the pieces together to create harmony.
That's the guy I am...
Thursday, December 5, 2013
I Love this Place! I've visited Jamaica every month for a year and it never gets old. And one of my favorite destinations is one of Jamaica's best kept secrets.
Little Ochie, Mandeville, Jamaica Alligator Pond. The food is to die for and every July they have a Seafood Carnival. Must go to event.
So the next time you're traveling and your destination is Jamaica, Check out Little Ochie!!! Tell them SugaBear sent you!
Wednesday, December 4, 2013
I think I may be one of a few men that have been married and now divorced, that still desire to marry again.
Marriage is a perfect institution that's been given a bad rap by men and women that don't understand what it means to enter into it.
They say things like "Marriage sucks", "I will never get married", "Marriage is for the birds" as if Marriage is what messed their relationship up. Please!!! You or your mate was and are the cause of the failure. And more often than not, you got married knowing it wasn't the right thing to do. There were problems that you didn't deal with at the beginning and they grew, you got engaged knowing you weren't in love and BOOM!!! Marriage is the problem for your failed marriage. Please!!! Again I say, YOU are the reason your marriage failed.
I want to grow old with the woman I love and can't live without.
A family that prays together stays together!!!
Tuesday, December 3, 2013
Tis the season for mass breakups and new beginnings.
If you notice your relationship taking a turn for the worst during the holiday season, chances are your days are numbered. The holiday season is the time of year when the weather is a little cooler, songs of joy and thanksgiving are being played, love is in the air as well. All of which should be the recipe for closeness.
You have the cooler temperatures which mean couples are spending more time indoors, and that should translate to more quality time spent together. However, most couples can't stand each other and always complaining about being smothered.
If your ass is married, there is no such thing as being smothered. If that is the case for you, why in the world did you get married. Did you not read the guidelines to a successful marriage? Number one, being "Two become ONE! it doesn't get any smothering than that. Yeah, yeah... a lot of people use the word smothering, because the novelty of the relationship has gotten old. They forgot that when they decided to move in together that meant they were going to see each other DAILY!!! I am a firm believer that people get dumber when they "think" they're in love. When you know you're in love, it flows, especially if the both of you know it and are expressing it.
Smothering will break up relationships, and that will be the excuse that leads to the true problems of the relationship.
Men are culprits of this next phenom. "Cheap" It's the holidays and they don't want to buy gifts. Or they have too many gifts to buy their stable of secret admirers. A lot of women will become victim to the pre holiday argument that normally would blow over, but because its holiday season, dude is like, "I don't have time for this!" Sounds too familiar.
But don't worry ladies, he'll be back. And you will take him back. Dumb ish!!!
Now the holiday season (according to Q) Starts on Thanksgiving and ends the day after Valentine's Day. So there is a lot of time for breakups.
Valentine's Day has the most break ups and new beginnings than any other single day of the year.
You want to impress your new boo. But first you have to get rid of the old boo. She/He ran their course.
Just like crazy traditions on New Years Day. Out with the old and in with the new. People historically end a relationship before the new year thinking that's a magical day to start new or fresh. Dumb ish once again. If your relationship was failing on January 3rd, are you seriously waiting until the end of that yer to make some changes? Sadly I know for some the answer is yes. Keep trash around, let it pile up, because come December 31 their ass is gone...YEAH RIGHT!!!!
on that note ladies and gentlemen... If your relationship is worth saving and the two of you agree with that, then by all means work it out. However, if you are fighting this battle alone, Allow the ship to sink and save yourself.
I Live Love...
Sunday, December 1, 2013
Hello Everyone! Here's my random thoughts for the day.
To the ladies:
1. Stop thinking that you are going to change your man by the way you treat him. You're thinking that if you treat him good he will reciprocate. If that hasn't worked up to this point, what makes you think it will work in the future?
2. Stop complaining to your girls about your sorry man. You're still with him. Until that changes shut it up. Your girls think you're crazy as it is to be with the guy. You know he's not about anything, they know it. They listen because they care about you. They give you advice, whether you choose to take it or not. They are tired of listening to the same crap over and over.
3. The V-jay jay is powerful. Use it! Take back the power. No man can make you be with them. You choose who you want to be with. Be selective. You know what you want. Choose wisely. Let him approach you with sincerity. Listen and watch...
***Drops the mic!!!***